The Shreveport Journal from Shreveport, Louisiana (2024)

July 29, 1971

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The Shreveport Journali

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Shreveport, Louisiana

Issue Date:

Thursday, July 29, 1971

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7

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TODA'Y'S NEWS TODAY-WITH TODAY'S PICTURES TOri THE SHREVEPORT JOURNAL SHREVEPORTBOSSIER CITY LA THURSDAY JULY 29 1971 A SEVEN 1 TL Fa ry Tale I Aj 111111 a Horror taatAlw7t 4()()S 4 A I Dear Don't Be Wailing Wall For Parents' Problems By Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: I am a wife and the mother of teen-agers but my biggest problem is my parents! They have never got along and I hear it every day from both sides Especially my mother If she isn't here complaining in person she's on the phone She starts out with 'Now I don't want you to think less of your father but as our daughter you have a right to know what's going on" Then she proceeds to tear him to shreds (I'm not the only one in the family she complains to but I am the favorite wailing-wall) I have sat them both down and begged them to get professional help and quit running to relatives but they don't want help They'd rather complain and make everyone else as miserable as they are Abby I may lay awake nights worrying about my teen-agers but my parents will never hear a word Why should I burden them with my problems? They aren't going to solve them for me On the other hand I try to keep my parents' problems from my husband and children I feel like a sponge being sopped from both sides and never allowed to drip I know a daughter can't disown her own parents but if only they realized what they were doing to me maybe they would let us In the meantime how can I keep my sanity or what's left of it? DAUGHTER DEAR DAUGHTER: if you really want to preserve your sanity you will shut off your parents' complaints In whatever ways are necessary And don't feel guilty DEAR ABBY: With so much talk about controlling the population by means of the men having vasectomies I want to ask you question: How come I had this simple little' 15-minute operation done in the doctor's office in 1952 and it cost me only $25 and today they 4 are charging $250 for the very same operation? Just because doctors have a license to practice medicine doesn't mean they have a license to steal DEARBORN MICH DEAR DEARBORN: Nothing is as cheap -ft today as It was in 1952 But if the doctor who performed your surgery for $25 is now charging $250 why don't you ask him? 1 DEAR ABBY: Because it is a habit to read the death notices in my hometown paper I I turned to the obits in the newspaper while traveling through that city In funeral notices I saw someone I had I known died at the home of a "Sally So and So''" a very dear friend after a lingering illness" 4 Not that it's any of my dang business but is It now considered proper to announce to the world that one's sleeping partner has sec- cumbed? Or do you suppose 'Sally So and So" was using the obits to let the local townspeople know that she was looking for a relief pitcher? TEXAN DEAR TEXAN: how do you know what the sleeping arrangements were? Perhaps "Sally So and So" was indeed a "dear friend" and I nothing more For Abby's new booklet "What Teen-Agers Want to Know" send $1 to Abby Box 69700 Los Angeles Cal 90069 4 OP' mA 6- I iTMrmmrZA1 '''i iifl 1 i 1 a Dear :4: 1: i s4 1- 0 re 4) i 1 ii ii 1 1 Don't' Be' Wailing Wall -ito 1 1 1 i': d--lik to i 1: 1: 0 a- For Parents Problems A 1 4 By 'Abigail Van Buren :::1 04 DEAR ABBY: I am a wife and the mother controlling the population by means of the 1' li: 41 (i 't' of teen-agers but my biggest problem is my men having vasectomies I want to ask you a- parents! They have never got along and I question: How come I had this simple little' hear it every day from both sides Especially 15-minute operation done in the doctor's office Sc' ry00: my mother If she isn't here complaining in in 1952 and it cost me only $25 and today they 4 f'IL lisp person she's on the phone She starts out with are charging $250 for the very same operation? 4 "Now I don't want you to think less of your father but as our daughter you have a right to rtl know what's going on" Then she proceeds to Alk' tear him to shreds (I'm not the only one in the Just because doctors have a license to practice medicine doesn't mean they have a license to steal 1 141 1 j( ''''11: family she complains to but I am the favorite DEARBORN MICH Evior wailing-wall) them both down and begged AR DEARBORN: Nothing is as eheap71 I have sat them to get professional help and quit running today as it was in 1952 But if the doctor who perfornied pyour surgery for ti)5 is now to relatives but they don't want help They'd 4 iotock14- z0 rather complain and make everyone else as miserable as hin ey are 111111' 0i 7'7- 4-" :1 "1 47yi 4 1 never turned to the obits in the newspaper while rtby I may lay awake nights worrying charging $2)0 why don't you ask DEAR ABBY: Because it is a habit to read ri the death notices in my hometown paper I city someone I had' weno-radgewrshybsuhtoordyI hpoarrdeenotsthwomill hmeayr ate traIvoelifnugoothrroolugoohttioheast elit i(e: 1 with my problems? They aren't going to solve known died at the home of a "Sally So and So-" -1 A It 4: I keep them for me On the other hand I try to I ILq my parents' problems from my husband and a very dear friend after a lingering illness" 4 Not that it's any of my dang business but is e1441 choildrenth1 ifeees1 olikeneaversponlgweebeoingrisopped -t41 fr mbo sd a allowed A- it now considered proper to announce to the world that one sleeping partner has sec- t4-walosp- 7 I know a daughter can't disown her own cumbed? Or do you suppose ally So and So" 4 44 parents but if only they realized what they was using the obits to let the local townspeople 171 I '4 1 were doing to me maybe they would let us In know that she was looking for a relief pitcher? 14k11 the meantimet? how can I keep my sanity or TEXAN 1i vi''b oi? tire' what's left of I 4A'' -'140v1 DEAR TEXAN: llow do you krow what the DAUGHTER 4lit4A'-'q sleeping arrangements were? Perhaps 1 Sally 0 1 Ilr'les2 41 DAUGHTER: If you really want to So and So" was Indeed a "dear friend" and i 4 DEAR 4t preserve your sanity you will shut off your no thing more parents' complaints in whatever ways are necessary And don't feel guilty For Abby's new booklet "What Teen-Agers tOlstli -''''i is 04 09tit Want to Know" send $1 to Abby Box 69700 1i tb0) t)e447 DEAR ABBY: With so much talk about Los Angeles Cal 90069 A I ig' 4 lithielminig i A Fr---1 4 I iA I 0 rTit 46 ol 3 to Ai A ni By Miller li 11 i nil Universal Science News 4 it Al 411 if -0 -C a Ask Alpaca Fiber Supply Limited Ask Fiber To Your Good Healti--- Thinning of Hair Is Usual at 65 To Your Good Heal ti--- Thinning of Hair or i The teacher or mother may consider "Ilumpty-Dumpty" or "Rock-a-by-Baby" as cute little jingles but the child may entertain pleasurable visions of a baby brother or sister crashing down from a wall or bough fl 41 Ry Dr George Thosteson IroorrrsrmIktflmrntimtoio TavarmAkrrn' Andy sends a complete 20-v olume set of the WORLD BOOK ENCYCLOPEDIA to Sandra Brauer age 10 of Niles Ohio for her question: WHERE DO WE GET AlPA after the birth of a baby brother or sister "It appears that Humpty Dumpty falling off the wall represents the sibling whom they wish would come crashimg to the ground and never be repaired" the psychiatrist says According to him the same reaction often applies to the lullaby -a -b aby" "Children are not aware of the meaning of the words when they first hear the song" Leiken says "By the time they can 'understand there is usually another younger child in the house and they are wishing that somehow something would happen to that cradle and the child would come crashing down" '4 4 III '4 -4 IIC a -A li 1 t1 A 4 I i I fi i i 1 I i i I I I ir i i I 4 1 i I 1 i a I IC it a is ik id as 11 ik tg if l't le le re ay t'S an ve up on TS to- ay as-to TS he ail in in on aut ee in he 1 ne 1 1 1 is a aer 1 of a es T's no en its amn om the ase or hin to are lot the an of as is of the a the is the the 1' 1 I (1 I 1 i Iv 1 11 i 1 1 1 1 I Dear Dr Thoaeson: My problem is my hair It is slow in growing in in other words the falling is greater than the growing Probably that is due to my age I am 65 but healthy and love life I have a shampoo about once a week and brush and brush Is there a tonic you could suggest? Mrs OC Questions like this one are pretty common and there are so many different tonics shampoos and home remedies for hair that I couldn't begin to count them Yet when you get right down to it there are a limited few things that will have any effect on your hair First at 65 (often earlier) it is not at all unusual to have some thinning of the hair Your glands generally including those in the scalp are not as active as they used to be and there's nothing you can do about it (Except there may be a need for thyroid or for estrogen the female hormone These can have a beneficial effect on the hair) AFTER ALL some people and this includes more women than you might think become bald And there's nothing to do about that either Within limits you can do what is good or your hair but in the broad picture we have to be a tisf ied with our natural endowments The one important thing to watch for is skin disease that is scalp disease That can really be devastating but it also can be treated effectively But if there's really a skin disease at work you'll be aware of it You can see it you may feel it Just take a IR Television violence is tame cothp in to the grisly happen- ings fairy tales and children's poems says a professor of psychiatry at the University of Calaornia Los Angeles Dr Stanley Leiken who is al a member of the Center for Adult and Child Psychiatry in Encino Calif points out that sueb violence is not necessarily harmful It is the way in which the children react to it that coats LEIKEN WHO HAS three children of his own concludes that elhe fairy tales lullabies and poems children are reared with are basically horror sto- ries But he adds "such literature along with monster movies and television violence all Ilave a place in the development of young people" "A I 1 these media are important in their own way to help the child deal with his private- fantasy life" Leiken ''But there must be a constant awareness of how each is affecting the child in order to know what his inner needs are" AS A PRACTICING psychiatrist at the Children's Treatment Center Camarillo State Mental Hospital in addition to his other positions Leiken has had an opportunity to come across many examples of how fairy tales satisfy unspoken desires and needs 'Humpty Dumpy'" he says "This poem has been around for about 1000 years and is popular in several European countries Every version ends in the same way the poor egg is smashed and all the skills of the doctors and even the omnipotence of the king can't repair the multiple fractures" 14IKEN POINTS OUT that the-poem often becomes more poptlat' with older children IL Ti cod ing! poe: PsY Cali alA Mt Enc su0 har the cotii tt LI chil thal and ries lite) mol all mei in1134 heir pri say con: is a kno trist mei Met his had acr fair tlesi 10 1 say! aroi is I coa the sm4 the oter the I the po' "THEN THEY SEE in the movies that little people can overcome huge monsters and this is quieting The monsters are punished in the movies just as they would like to punish the monsters in their family" Leiken says parents should worry only if their children react with too much emotion to the fantasies "Some children may not identify with the little people in the picture" he explains "But with the monster They sometimes feel their aggressions and inner drives make them monsters How often have we said to a child 'you little monster'? In his mind the kid instantly conjures up Godzilla or King Kong THE II I 1) psychiatrist frankly admits to being as bewildered by the actions of his three children as any other parent "But I watch them and try to figure out if they are identifying with the good guys or the monsters" In cases where the child does have the wrong identification he should not be exposed to monster shows Leiken says "Parents should try to limit contact with this sort of show until the child is able to deal with the monster within himself" LEIKEN BELIEVES the authors of childrenst stories and poems are in touch with their childhood fantasies That is why they are able to produce tales that like all good stories offer the reader identification and experience he cannot enjoy in reality In sum children usually can handle their preferred types of entertainment very well and gain from the experience while enjoying the excitement and stimulation of their own fanta sies are also reunited with their parents and learn they were or ri about their missing children Contrary to the children's fears their parents did love them Here the happy ending contributes the main source of satisfaction" ALL CHILDREN fear their parents will leave them and never return "This is why they are so disturbed when parents go out for the night" Leiken says "They hate to go to bed and to sleep Many actually fear they may die in their sleep'! The child psychiatrist sees little harm in most TV fare "I suppose the most frightening thing they could see on TV would be the news" he says "I have no suggestions on how to deal with that sort of thing Most of us can't deal with it anyway But kids seem to be able to deal with the frightening things they see" IF THERE IS a problem with so much TV these days Leiken believes it's because the tube eliminates much of the need for individual imagination "But a careful parent can make use of the media for its tremendous volue" he points out The child specialist recommends o- grams like "Mr Rogers' and "Sesame Street" The popularity of monster movies is also healthy in most cases Lciken maintains "Our youngsters are fascinated with the idea that some large animal is about to attack a small individual This actually mirrors their feelings and fears Boys between the ages of three and five are often afraid their parents especially their father will punish them for something they did or thought They are so small and their parents are so big good look in the mirror and if the scalp looks normal forget it If there is scaling rash or other such sign of a skin disease my advice is to see a dermatologist Fiddling :1 around with home remedies is too hit-or-miss to be effective I DON't mean that one should get in a panic over a few little flecks of dandruff on I the collar They are flecks of skin But if there's an abnormally large amount of (Iandruff try one of the various dandruff shampoos If that doesn't help see a dermatologist Where the scalp appears and feels normal just treat it kindly By that I mean folks should remember that hair texture a ien enormously Some is coarse some fine Some is rugged some is brittle We are constantly losing hair all the time It averages to about 75 hairs a day so a few in the comb don't necessarily mean anything New 1 ones grow in BUT BRITTLE hair breaks off more ea sil While a shampoo a week is entirely reasonable I'd go easy on the "brush and brush" You may be breaking off more strands than need be so limit the brushing to whatever is essential for good grooming Don't expect a lot of brushing to grow new hair or grow it faster So treat it kindly Fairly gently And watch out for disease And don't worry if the hair looks a bit thinner at 65 That's natural for nearly all of us DON'T TAKE chances with "kidney trouble" It may be only minor but it can be dangerous Read Dr Thosteson's booklet "Your Kidneys Facts You Need To Know About Them" Write to him in care of The Shreveport Journal Box 1110 Shreveport La 71102 enclosing a long self-addressed (use zip code stamped envelope and 25 cents in coin to cover cost of printing and handling "IT ALLOWS THEM to vicariously experience pleas u'r which they are not allowed to talk about or even think about" he continues "Parents will not allow an expression of hostility toward the new baby But the enjoyment of a nursery rhyme where a baby falls and is broken to bits cannot be punished" Stories that simply entertain don't last Leiken observes "The literature that survives through the ages is based on such things as fear of the dark child abandonment canibalism death and other terrifying things" THE STORY OF Hansel and Gretel is one that deals with basic human fears he points out "Little children become lost They are terrified and alone A witch captures them and threatens to eat them They are rescued only in an 11th hour act "This story is so acceptable to kids because although it frightens them and plays on their fears in the end the children come out on top The youngsters CA? The Incas of Peru used these silken fibers to weave delicate shawls and other fine woolen garments The Spaniards introduced the luxurious material to the Old World but supplies were limited and weavers soon took to blending them with sheep's wool Supplies still are limited This is why most a br ic sold as alpaca usually is not entirely alpaca As a rule these rare luxurious fibers are blended with the finest fleece el sheep with the hair of angora goats or rabbits and perhaps with some of the super-fine synthetic materials In our stores textiles made from pure alpaca fibers are hard to come by But not in certain parts of Bolivia and Peru There the people often wear everyday cloaks and shawls woven entirely from soft silky alpaca fibers There on the antiplano the high plain around Lake Titicaca live the herds of sheep-like alpaca that supply the fleecy fibers to make these luxurious fabrics Once each year the shepherds shear their fleecy coats and there is never enough for everyone who would like to buy it THE ALPACA is a rather hoity-toity character who refuses to descend from his lofty home two or three miles high in the Andes Mountains The haughty expression on his solemn face reminds one of the camel Actually the alpaca is a small humpless cousin of the big bulky camel Ile shares the slopes of the Andes the llama the guaraco and vicuna and they also are small humpless members of the camel family All these animals have soft silky hair and the alpaca's is second best The softest and silkiest belongs to the vicuna People who know claim that human hairs are like wires when compared with the fine hairs of the vicuna The alpaca's hair is almost as I but he is more friendly to people Fo- centories shepherds of the high Andes have tended their alpaca flocks and sheared their silken coats The shearing season comes around when we are having fall weather and spring comes to the lands south of the equator By then the alpaca coats almost brush the ground The hairs are eight to 24 inches long Some to the largest animals yield seven pounds of alpaca fiber apiece After shearing the hair grows and by next year they are ready to welcome another crew-cut These small camel cousins are cud-chewers that feed on grasses and scrubby plants that grow on the pampas and the lofty slopes of South America In the wild they roam in herds and one papa protects several wives and numerous children Domesticated alpaca depend on the shepherd to lead them to nasture and protect them from harm THE ALPACA looks rather like a large sheep with a long neck and long straight hair instead of curly fleece His luxurious coat may be black white or brown or a mixture of these colors His cousin the llama is trained as a beast of burden and sometimes the people eat his meat But the valuable alpaca is treated as a wool specialist He is not expected to carry burdens and his meat is rarely if ever eaten The mothers produce only enough milk for their babes and yidd none for dairy products Mail questions to Ask Andy PO Box 765 Huntington Beach Calif 92648 Must Every Friendly Gesture Be Suspect? Vt Berry's World gressman who names appointed party workers or home-town folks to his staff is not on the same level as the machine hack who appoints unqualified judge And to accept the suggestion as they do that the New Deal programs were thought up partly for the sake of the patronage they would offer Roosevelt is so strange a way of looking at the problem of the 30's as to distort it Millions of people voted for him who never received or wanted a penny from the public till And I am surprised to such sharp-eyed observers as the Tolchins in speaking of what seems to them the inflexibility of the Establishment tmlay in meeting the demands of eco- nomic minorities do not put their finger on the nub of the argument: America's attitude toward race In the past accommodation was easier because the goals of the poor were economic But the large black minority today will not be appeased solely by having more money in their pockets They are demanding adjustments and changing attitudes that are not in the hands of legislators and party hacks to dole out especially since too many of them are part of the problem that needs to be corrected i 1 3 0- rj I Affi N1164 "(''- 4 f-)11-- 11111 :11111 ------1 lop II i :1114 A 1 11 dll 'I Itilla vail Money isn't everything of course Men like to have their egos caressed in dozens of ways but money isn't entirely absent at any time either IN GENERAL nothing this husband and wife team writes he covers New York City Hall for The New York Times she teaches political science) nothing will entirely surprise the reader although their praise of the populist leadership of Lester Maddox may startle those who thought the Georgia politician without virtues of any sort Readers will simply nod in agreement with what the Tolchins write Americans know even without having learned it that this is how the American governmental system works and the successive revelations of conflicts of interest or personal gain of back-scratching logrolling and the like may be new in detail but scarcely new in idea That is why to many Americans no politician is without a taint of corruption and the whole game has something unsavory about it PATRONAGE WORKS in small ways at the clubhouse level (turkeys are still being given away at Christmas in some places) and at the nation al level where an army base with all that it means in terms of construction and maint nance will be set up in the home state of a senator ranking high on the Armed Services Committee There is much more at stake naturally in securing the Army base so much more in fact that the senator involved may vote for projects in which he has only a mild interest or even disapproves of in order to secure the votes necessary to put through his own pet project Favors done and received are like 10Uss Sooner or later someone comes by to collect on them It is notaneven-handed syste A federally-secured loan of $265000 was made available to a county in Mississippi to build a golf course This contrasts with the sum of $300000 used for food stamps for 2000 inhabitants of the same county IT DID SEEM to me that the examples of patronage the authors cited covered so much ground that the distinctions began to be blurred Must every friendly gesture or helping hand be seen as having its Machiavellian side People even politicians often do thoings because they ace just decent A con By THOMAS LASK in New York Times News Service TO -THE VICTOR By Martin and Susan Tolchin 369 Pages Random $795 Reading Susan and Martin Tolthin's book is a melancholy experience For their description of patronage what is and hoW it works indicates that government at its simplest and at its most complex is one vast honey pot with thousands of ants lined up around the rim to get et'the sweetener inside or ding to the authors pateonage the art of doing antreceiving favors for personal profit to maintain oneself in poer or to maintain others in it is coterminous with the political structure itself THERE IS NO way of being effective in American government without being caught up in the -ystem This applies equally to old-line politicians like Mayor Richard Daley of Chicago who is proud of the patronage arrangement of his fiefdom and looks for ways of expanding it and to 'reform" politicians Uke Mayor Lindsay of New York who: the authors say will denounce the power brokers while trying to build his own Ter base through funds that come available to him Nf I TO lk 11 Tol exp tior hov goV at 1 hor ant get A pat and al 1 pov Pot 1 effc me the to or whl am look and Ma who den will on the an 1 is lien oon ally to ven the is I Of Its yes is as 0 911 by NIA lac: I 'The only thing I DON'T like about 'All in the Family' is the laughter when Archie says something that makes sense!".

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